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Do you value your time like you value your money?

There is a key difference between time and money.  But I’m not sure we always realize this.

The difference is that you can’t save up time.  You can’t refuse to spent it.  You can’t set time aside for a rainy day.

Sometimes we get caught in the trap of thinking about time like we think about money.  We think that it’s possible to save it up for something special.  That if we use it wisely there will be more of it in the long run.

That is not the case.  We do need to use our time wisely and we do need to take efforts to ensure that how we use our time reflects our values (just like we need to take efforts to ensure that how we use our money reflects our values and that we are spending our money wisely).  But time is not the same as money.  Once it’s gone it’s gone, and unlike money there is no way of making more or of dipping into a saving account.  So value your time and think about whether you are spending your time or if your time is spending you.

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Clementine on choices

One of my younger friends encouraged me to read the Clementine books.  The Clementine books are a series, of which I have now read two books.  Clementine is in grade three.

Clementine provided me with a new perspective on choices, one that I thought you might appreciate too.

“My parents think I have a hard time choosing things, but that’s not it.  I can choose things just fine.  The problem is, whenever you have to choose something, that means you have to not-choose about a hundred other things.  Which is not so easy.”

Well said Clementine.

 

FYI – The Clementine books are written by Sara Pennypacker and illustrated by Marla Frazee.

Be kind

I have a friend who over the years I have frequently heard encouraging her kids to ‘be kind’.  It’s a simple but powerful message and approach to live and interacting with others.

Being kind is one of the the most powerful things that can do, because kindness ‘scales’ up.  Kindness snowballs.  It leads to more kindness.  And more than that, it can foster trust and openness, patience and possibility.

Sometimes being kind may take more effort than you were hoping it would, but it’s worth it.

It’s a wonderful approach to instill in our kids, but it’s also a life message or philosophy we all need to practice.

Risk has a person-specific definition

This past week I had a conversation that resulted in new clarity about the fact that each of us has our own person-specific definition of risk.

I spent several days doing the exact same activities as my traveling companion.  However as we spoke about these experiences and activities, I noted that I had stretched my comfort zone and done some things I thought were “risky”; while my companion hadn’t had felt either stretched or that anything had been particularly “risky”.

How we each define risk for ourselves and others is based on many different factors, things like our personalities, our previous experiences, our imaginations and abilities to visualize something that has not happened, and likely many more things.

The learning from this, was the reminder that we need to careful not to assume that everyone feels the same way about something as we do.  We need to be kind, as we interact with people who may not be as comfortable with a situation as we are.  We need to show grace and understanding, just as at times we need to be shown grace and understanding.

I was blessed this week to be traveling with someone who was understanding and supportive as I stretched myself to do some things I felt were a bit “risky” (or the at least had the potential to end in less than ideal outcomes).   I was glad we had the chance to talk about our personal definitions of what we think of as “risky” situations.

We don’t all need to be the same, or think the same, or feel the same.  We just need to be kind to each other as we navigate this world together.

Insight vs Action

When some comes to you with a problem or a situation, do you offer insight or do you encourage action?

Earlier today I read the following statement: “Inciting action is often better than contributing insight.”

I love looking for insight.  I love finding insight.  I love sharing insight.

And while insight is good and can be helpful.  It is often through finding our own insight that we learn and grow (and ultimately change).  Someone else’s insight rarely has the same effect.  The act of having to figure it our ourselves is generally more helpful and useful than hearing someone else’s good advice.

The next time someone shares their current challenge or problem, take a moment to consider how you could inspire them to take action and experience or find their own insight.  At least, that’s what I’m going to try and do, I’ll leave it to you to take whatever action you want from this insight.

 

snowed in…

There is something to be said being “snowed in”.   In this day and age, weather is really the only reason that many of us find ourselves at home for a full 24-48 hours.  For many of us in Southwestern Ontario this past weekend, and into today, the nasty weather kept us home for a few days.  And whatever you might think about the actual weather, the weather gave us a gift.

It gave us the gift of time.

Activities and events were cancelled, and suddenly we found ourselves with unexpected time.  Time to do things we love, but that don’t always happen.  Time to slow down, and not free quite so rushed through the list of things we wanted/needed to do.  Time to be with the people we share are homes with.

I’m not sure what each of you did this weekend with your “snowed in” time, but I hope you enjoyed this wonderful unexpected gift.

what is and what might be

Disclaimer – the vast majority of the content of this blog post is not mine own, but rather a slightly modify version of a Seth Godin blog post. 

What is (i.e., our current life) and What might be (our future life)…. they have much less in common than you might initially think.

Our current reality can be very different from our future.  Creating a different, a better future means not focusing on the decisions, grievances and false starts or failures of the past.  It means being open, or continuing to be open, to something different, to be willing to keep making different choices.

“The future won’t be perfect. We won’t be perfect. But we can be kind. We can listen. We can give opportunity the benefit of the doubt.”

“The future won’t always work. We won’t always succeed. But we can be alert and seek out the possible instead of the predicted.”

“The future won’t always be fair. But we can try. We can care. We can choose to connect.”

“It can be better if we let it.”

What is and what might be – they don’t have to look the same as each other.